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Inb4 you go onto say "MEN GET RAPED TOO!!!" and "NOT ALL MEN ARE RAPISTS." or "WOMEN CAN RAPE TOO", and so on, yes I know that already. Shut up.
Statistically, there ARE more male-on-female rapes out there. No, I'm NOT saying that female-on-male rape doesn't exist. All I'm saying is that the statistics are lower than male-on-female rape.
This stamp goes for everyone, not just young men.
To me, it's wrong to dictate what women wear. Especially when things such as rape are involved.
"She shouldn't have been wearing such slutty clothes!!"
... This is your excuse? Her clothes provoked you? I should fucking punch you in the face because your stupidity provokes me. In the middle east, women are raped all the time. And you know what happens afterwards? She get's punished. Not him.
It doesn't matter what she wears. It could be overalls to a bikini. In the long run, it's YOU who has to control your urges. It's YOU who needs to keep it in your pants.
Would you blame a man who got mugged for his own assault? No, you wouldn't, because that's a stupid, not to mention, CRUEL thing to do.
"Oh you got robbed even though your house was locked up? WELL IT'S YOUR FAULT FOR HAVING NICE STUFF YOU FUCKING SLUT!"
I should probably stop now because I'll go on forever about this fucked up subject.
This is not addressing the rape question: I don't think anyone should "dictate" what we women wear- at least as adults- but to wear something revealing, it should be acknowledged, is like wearing a pair of those blinking antennae headbands on your head. Now imagine they're also brighter, and beeping. You've *got* to know that it's going to be distracting, and maybe a little frustrating for those on the other side of the line. Come on, now. A little empathy and understanding in everyday scenarios would be nice. (that's what women are *supposedly* good at 9_9)
Literally, it's almost like taking someone's right to their thoughts away. Invading their mind. Sure, they can control themselves (if they don't have personal issues or haven't been conditioned too heavily) but you're making them think thoughts that might not be pertinent to whatever they're trying to do at the moment. It someone was walking a dog repeatedly beside my desk while I was doing homework, I wouldn't be able to concentrate very well either because I'd be thinking how cute it is and wanting to go pet and play with it! School dress codes can and maybe should be predicated on this understanding.
Besides, if you want to be valued primarily for your *mind and personality,* why not *act* like it? I'm tired of all this "I'm just dressing up to be pretty for me" nonsense that doesn't try to see it from the other side's perspective. You can be very pretty without being revealing. And you *know* you're going to attract some annoying attention, even if it is maybe wrong. If it's snowing outside, you can't put on a T-shirt and demand it get warmer. Social climate is just about as intractable at the present moment, for all your whining. If you want something *done,* get involved with mentoring young men and/or teaching workshops. Then you'll have a constructive outlet for those words.
*all of that said, I'm all for nudist colonies, topless, bikinis, whatever, but in general *consider* these things before you just go and getting irate at men, or worse, make that your default setting.
Considering the fact that there was a case a few years ago in my country where a man literally ate his girlfriend, and that a lot of rape cases are by the same people, I would say that teaching people not to rape is not going to get us anywhere. What we should do is teach about the fact that psychotic individuals exist in our society and teach how to protect themselves from them, like how to fight them off. It would also help to get more people out side to protect the everyday citizens from assaults. This would be much more efficient then just telling people not to rape, because for most people raping someone is indeed as unthinkable as cannibalism.
And yet people still do it. Why would this be any different with rape?
so hrm... what do you think of this article and especially this quote: "there is an alarmingly high rate of sexual abuse by females in the backgrounds of rapists, sex offenders and sexually aggressive men" as opposed to "we should teach men that rape is bad so there wont be any rape ever"?)
Technically, right now we don't teach rape or rape-like behavior is wrong. In my health class, we never once had a discussion about boundary setting, permission, gray areas, etc.
If we did, the numbers would undoubtedly go down.
Right now, that vacuum is filled by popular culture, which puts pressure on young men to get laid as often as and however possible.
So your health class is the only health class on Earth? No? Then what's your point?
I really doubt that.
With the popular culture, women are in there as well, and usually, they have the exact same mindset and usually get laid with every popular dude in their school.
Is mine the only one? What kind of question is that? I just see the activists say we need better discussion and education, and they're the ones that know the larger picture. My personal experience just happens to mesh with that.
Okay, you don't think the numbers will go down. But tell me, what's the harm in trying? If there's even a 10% chance that it would keep ONE person from being violated, it's more than worth a little mental effort on our collective part. 9_9
With culture, women are in a no-win situation. If they have sex, they are seen as sluts, if they don't, they are seen as prudes. Guys are almost always slapped on the back for "scoring," women, not so much. I'm talking about societal reactions to actions, not the actions themselves.
anti-misogyny ≠ pro-misandery,
people, if you really cared that much about men getting raped then instead of complaing about it you would DO something- there are guys out there suffering because you were trying to prove sexism where is wasn't and women suffering because you cant support both genders,
and If you cared about equal rights and hated sexism so much they you would focus equally on both genders rather than just men
too much stupid- I need caffeine right now
No rude intention here but,I fail to see any valid evidence of this.
YOU could've kept your dick in your pants and decided NOT to rape her. THEREFORE its YOUR RESPONSIBLITY to stay off the streets if your going to do stuff like that and go to JAIL!!
GOsh whoever makes an excuse that "its YOUR fault for wearing a skimpy outfit" they need to go get punched multiple times in the face!
And that's what should happen with us.
"That doesn't matter. Rape jokes are bad, full stop. You aren't edgy. You look like a prat."
Besides that, rape isn't necessary. If someone can't find someone to have consensual sex with, they are clearly just not trying. It's not like most people make it much of a challenge.